Monthly Archives: November 2009

lessons to live by

By Regina Brett, 90 years old

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and
     parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone..
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what
        their journey is all about
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry;
      God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one
       is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no
        for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t
       save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ”In five years,
       will this matter?”.
26. Always choose life.
27. Forgive everyone everything.
28. What other people think of you is none of your business.
29. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
31. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
32. Believe in miracles.
33. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you
       did or didn’t do.
34. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
35. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
36. Your children get only one childhood.
37. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
38. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s,
       we’d grab ours back.
40. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
41. The best is yet to come.
42. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
43. Yield.
44. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

I would like to meet Regina Brett!

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
 – Maria Robinson

birthday banana

anna banana turns 8

 a psychic once told me anna would accomplish something really big in this world.  she was two at the time.  you read it here first . . .


“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
 – Ralph Waldo Emerson


i have officially given up ‘law and order’ for ‘criminal minds’ –   trading in christopher meloni for shemar moore.



The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned.”

 William Somerset Maugham

sick in the city

being alone with the flu is no fun. walking around the block with ivan and a fever of 100.2 and a smashing headache is not a good time either.

i called several friends just to make sure someone was around to feed ivan just incase i had to hospitalize myself. being that it was the nicest weather one could ever hope for in november, i found no one home. thoughts of what would happen to ivan if  i had to go to the hospital overwhelmed me.  i had visions of  ivan attacking the paramedics as they attempted to take me away. i knew the stretcher would never fit into my apartment and so i would have to be hauled out in one of those orange chairs on wheels.

things you can normally tolerate become unbearable when you’re sick.  like the fire alrarm ‘low battery’ high pitched signal in the adjoining building.  how can the people who live in that building stand it?  i’m in the building next door and if i could get near it i would smash it with my mop, fever and all, i would smash that alarm. this made me hate all of the people in the adjacent building.  i wondered if anybody’s head had actually exploded in real life.

the heat was so hot & dry that ivan woke me up in the middle of the night panting – hovering over my face, panting. once he woke me i realized that my throat was on fire and my mouth had turned into cement. i had to get out of bed to turn on the air conditioner. this made me hate the landlord.

2 days into my swine flu – yes, i’m sure it was swine – i was able to make human contact with my ex-neighbors, james and lauren. they had stayed in the city this weekend and would be around to help.  i needed help.  just a little while later they were on their way over with chicken soup, italian ice and oj.  love them.  the broken buzzer forced me to walk barefoot in the hallway, unshowered to open the door and let them in.  this makes me hate my landlord even more.

4 days later i have almost recovered from my flu and still working on the residual trauma of my thoughts.

“Eat right, exercise regularly, die anyway”
~Author Unknown

amazing day

nyc marathon free hugger!


“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want”
 – Zig Ziglar



an american dream

Partly_Cloudy 8:30 am – so far we’re off to a good start for today’s marathon. the nyc marathon is the biggest sporting event on the planet. 42,000 people running, two million spectators and another 330 million people watching on tv.

6 of the top 10 winners on the men’s side were american – including #1, Meb Keflezighi.  amazing.

he was born is asmara (eastern africa).  his parents brought meb and his 10 brother’s and sisters to america in search of a better life.  i got the following info from meb’s website – it’s a great story.

Meb earned his B.A. in Communication Studies with a specialization in Business from UCLA. Meb has persevered through stints of injuries after college to make his phenomenal comeback.  This spirit of endurance is fueled by his parents’ fervent determination to save their family from the gruesome 30-year war that tore apart Eritrea and Ethiopia.  Knowing that his life was threatened by the Ethiopian regime, Meb’s father fled the country and worked for four years as a laborer to save his family.  They reunited in Italy where they lived for two years before arriving in San Diego in the late 1980s.  Despite the language barriers and life as an expatriate, Meb and his ten brothers and sisters have created their own legacy by making education their number one priority.  Among the children who are out of high school, they hold six undergraduate degrees, an MBA, an MD, one is working on a JD and another is on her way to Stanford University.  In 1998, Meb became a US citizen and he possesses dual-citizenship with Eritrea.

For many Eritreans, Meb symbolizes what their families fought for in the war with Ethiopia: the freedom to succeed.  For long distance running fans, Meb is a role model who has rejuvenated their sport, attracting new fans in the same vein as Tiger Woods in golf and the Williams sisters in tennis. To world humanitarians, Meb is an example of how third-world refugees who, when given opportunities, can become heroes to those around them.  For everyone else, according to Ghebre Selassie Mehreteab, the CEO of the NHP Foundation “Meb is an inspiration to all new Americans and his story demonstrates the power of the American Dream.”



“To achieve great things, two things are needed; a plan, and not quite enough time.”

 Leonard Bernstein quotes

happy halloween


mayor bloomberg’s house on halloween.  merlin was giving out the candy.



“Where there is no imagination there is no Horror.”
– Arthur Conan Doyle, Sr.