Monthly Archives: July 2010

my beautiful niece!

This Week!


A Special Day of Golf

Please join us at our inaugural Strides for Sara Golf Outing at Basking Ridge Country Club on
Monday, August 2, 2010
for a wonderful round of golf followed by a cocktail reception and dinner at the Johnson residence
35 Franklin Road, Mendham NJ.

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“I feel the capacity to care is the thing which gives life its deepest significance.”
Pablo Casals
































happy birthday my amazing friend

i love you & wish you the world!!


If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together.. there is something you must always remember.
you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. but the most
important thing is, even if we’re apart.. i’ll always be with you.”
Winnie the Pooh

mother knows best


“See how nature – trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars,
the moon and the sun, how they move in silence… We need silence to
be able to touch souls.”
Mother Teresa


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“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.”

never in ny

you’ve no doubt heard the expression ‘only in ny’ .   in 18 years living in nyc,  i’ve heard it countless times – mostly from people visiting from the suburbs.  i now find myself wondering if they ever bothered to take a look around their own environment.  with the lack of anything else going on, one would think someone would have developed a  special slogan for the activities which occur outside of the city.  following is a list of just some of the things i’ve noticed in the last several days that you would never find in ny:

a nun in full habit pulling into the parking lot of the local ‘quick chek’  in a behemouth, black, GMC Suburban.

‘quick chek’ stores (which carry only soda and chemical laden food-like products packaged in boxes or cans)

a baby bambi-like deer with little white spots on her back lying dead on the side of the road.

a speeding pick-up truck with a horse trailer attached and police lights flaring from the dash, crossing a double yellow line, passing a car on a 2 lane winding road.

5 women in the waiting room of the vet’s office – all middle-aged, overweight, with gray hair wearing farm clothes.

11 deer (in 7 different spots) on the way home from my brother’s house (and people are afraid to drive in the city??)

the same parking spot almost every time i come home.

a ladybug on the wall in the living room.

no vegetarian restaurants, group meditation, adult education classes,  frozen yogurt or health food stores in an entire zip code.


“My message is the practice of compassion, love and kindness. Compassion can be put into practice if one recognizes the fact that every human being is a member of humanity and the human family regardless of differences . . . ”
Dalai Lama







“Be of service. Whether you make yourself available to a friend or co-worker, or you make time every month to do volunteer work, there is nothing that harvests more of a feeling of empowerment than being of service to someone in need.”
Gillian Anderson



roxy’s mom

i only know her as ‘roxy’s mom’.  roxy is a yorkie puppy that ivan and i  run into most mornings on our walk.  everyday, roxy’s mom is wearing her bathrobe, slippers and bi-focals.  she also has the worst / best bed-head i ever saw out in public.  last night i ran into her for the first time after 7 am.  she was wearing sweats, a t-shirt, flip flops and bi-focals. her sweats were rolled up to her knees to display the large floral tatoos on the back of each calf.  her hair didn’t look much better than usual.  following is the enlightening conversation that took place:

me:  hello

rm:  i’m so tired

me:  hmm . . .  it ‘s probably the heat

rm:  no, im tired, really tired. i even went in to work an hour late today.  i just called them up and told them i’m going to be late – i didn’t care, i’m just too tired.

me:  oh. . . what do you do?

rm:  i’m a job coach for handicapped people – it’s really hard.

me:  that’s nice, you help people get jobs?

rm:  no, i don’t get them the jobs.  i go on the jobs with them & help them to do their job better.  it’s mostly cleaning – going to walmart and helping them clean the shelves & one time i got to go to ortho.  sometimes i show them how to fold boxes.  it’s really hard and i’m tired but it’s 12 bucks an hour and in this economy . . .  what do you do?

me:  i work for a scientist who researches nutrition.

rm:  really?  i used to be anorexic.  i was down to 70 lbs.  –  – like a bone  (held up pinky finger for emphasis).  now look at me (she appears to be around a size 2 ).  sometimes when i deliver newspapers in the hospital on weekends i go to the eating disorder ward and i want to go up to all the anorexics and tell them  ‘you look really good’.  (laugh)

this is zen in the suburbs.


Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves.”
Helen Keller

daily scope

long ago i quit looking at my horoscope in the ny post.  what made me click on it today?


Something isn’t working and needs to be changed.
You know what that something is and you know you have put it off too many times already.
Get tough with yourself and make the break — it’s for your own good.

“There are many methods for predicting the future. For example, you can read horoscopes, tea leaves, tarot cards, or crystal balls. Collectively, these methods are known as “nutty methods.” Or you can put well-researched facts into sophisticated computer models, more commonly referred to as “a complete waste of time.”
Scott Adams

is it legal to make illegal?


French parliament approves ban on face veils

The French parliament has voted overwhelmingly in favor of a ban on wearing veils over the face in public, a move which could make the Muslim burqa illegal.

There were 336 votes for the bill and just one against at the National Assembly.

Most members of the main opposition group, the Socialist Party, refused to participate in the vote.

President Nicolas Sarkozy has pushed for the law, saying the full veil “hurts the dignity of women, and is not acceptable in French society.”

But government advisers warned the proposed ban could be unconstitutional.

Face-covering veils, like the burqa and niqab, are worn by Muslim women out of choice and are not required by Islamic law.

Although France has the largest Muslim population in Europe — an estimated five million people — the veil ban is thought to affect fewer than 2,000 women.

The new legislation would forbid face-covering Muslim veils in all public places in France, including on the country’s streets.

Anyone caught flouting the ban would face a €149 ($189) fine, or citizenship classes, or both.

Those convicted of forcing someone else to wear a full veil would be hit with a fine of €29,900 ($37,900) and a one-year jail sentence.

If the ban is approved by parliament, the law could come into force by September.

A similar law was passed in Belgium in April. (ny post)


if you find yourself asking  “what exactly is a niqab?” click here.  in an older post, i noted some questions i had about full burqas but  this article in the post leaves me with more unanswered questions.   first, i wonder who was doing the complaining that prompted this new law?    i also wonder how they came up with a penalty of $37,900.?   


“Cultures can only realize their further richness by honoring other traditions. And only by respecting natural life can humanity continue to exist.”
 Daisaku Ikeda

lucky lady

this is why i love gimundo.   unlike the mainstream press, their stories make me smile.

Lottery Winner Joan Ginther: The Luckiest Woman Alive

Joan Ginther has won the lottery four separate times — winning millions of dollars on each occasion.

By Kathryn Hawkins. Posted on July 08 2010

You’re far more likely to die from a lightning strike than you are to win the lottery. But 63-year-old Joan Ginther is the odd example that proves the rule—or maybe she’s just plain lucky.

On Monday, Ginther showed up at the lottery headquarters in Austin, Texas to claim her $10 million prize in the state’s $140,000,000 Extreme Payout scratch-off ticket. That makes her one of the luckiest people on Earth, but that’s not it by a long shot: in fact, this is Ginther’s fourth time claiming a lottery prize for over a million dollars.

In 1993, Ginther won $5.4 million in a Lotto Texas jackpot; in 2006, she won $2 million from a $30 scratch-off ticket; and in 2008, she won a $3 million prize in another scratch-off game, Millions and Millions. Three of the tickets were purchased in the small Texas town of Bishop, and two from the very same store: Times Market at 525 Highway 77 Bypass.

“This is a very lucky store,” Bob Solis, the manager, told the Corpus Christi Caller-Times. So if you’re ever in the area—or even if you’re not—it might be worth stopping in for a scratch-off ticket or two. That is, if Ginther will ever give anyone else a chance to win.


“We all dream a lot – some are lucky, some are not. But if you think it, want it, dream it, then it’s real. You are what you feel.”
Tim Rice

50 years today!

happy anniversary mom & dad – i love you both and wish you many many more happy years together.

july 9 1960


One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is love.
– Sophocles

what is an american?

i recently received this e-mail. although it’s old, it’s still relevant.  normally, anything that points to the differences in people (men, women, black, white, republican, democrat ect. . .)  doesn’t hold my attention – but this spoke to me.  hopefully you’ll like it too!

By Peter Ferrara, an associate professor of law at the George Mason University School of Law.
September 25, 2001 9:20 a.m.

You probably missed it in the rush of news last week, but there was actually a report that someone in Pakistan had published in a newspaper there an offer of a reward to anyone who killed an American, any American.

So I just thought I would write to let them know what an American is, so they would know when they found one. 

An American is English…or French, or Italian, Irish, German, Spanish, Polish, Russian or Greek. An American may also be African, Indian, Chinese, Japanese, Australian, Iranian, Asian, or Arab, or Pakistani, or Afghan. 

An American is Christian, or he could be Jewish, or Buddhist, or Muslim. In fact, there are more Muslims in America than in Afghanistan. The only difference is that in America they are free to worship as each of them choose. 

An American is also free to believe in no religion. For that he will answer only to God, not to the government, or to armed thugs claiming to speak for the government and for God. 

An American is from the most prosperous land in the history of the world. The root of that prosperity can be found in the Declaration of Independence, which recognizes the God-given right of each man and woman to the pursuit of happiness. 

An American is generous. Americans have helped out just about every other nation in the world in their time of need. When Afghanistan was overrun by the Soviet army 20 years ago, Americans came with arms and supplies to enable the people to win back their country. As of the morning of September 11, Americans had given more than any other nation to the poor in Afghanistan. 

An American does not have to obey the mad ravings of ignorant, ungodly cruel, old men. American men will not be fooled into giving up their lives to kill innocent people, so that these foolish old men may hold on to power. American women are free to show their beautiful faces to the world, as each of them choose. 

An American is free to criticize his government’s officials when they are wrong, in his or her own opinion. Then he is free to replace them, by majority vote. 

Americans welcome people from all lands, all cultures, all religions, because they are not afraid. They are not afraid that their history, their religion, their beliefs, will be overrun, or forgotten. That is because they know they are free to hold to their religion, their beliefs, their history, as each of them choose. 

And just as Americans welcome all, they enjoy the best that everyone has to bring, from all over the world. The best science, the best technology, the best products, the best books, the best music, the best food, the best athletes. 

Americans welcome the best, but they also welcome the least. The nation symbol of America welcomes your tired and your poor, the wretched refuse of your teeming shores, the homeless, tempest tossed. 

These in fact are the people who built America. Many of them were working in the twin towers on the morning of September 11, earning a better life for their families. 

So you can try to kill an American if you must. Hitler did. So did General Tojo and Stalin and Mao Tse-Tung, and every bloodthirsty tyrant in the history of the world. 

But in doing so you would just be killing yourself. Because Americans are not a particular people from a particular place. They are the embodiment of the human spirit of freedom. Everyone who holds to that spirit, everywhere, is an American. 

So look around you. You may find more Americans in your land than you thought were there. One day they will rise up and overthrow the old, ignorant, tired tyrants that trouble too many lands. Then those lands too will join the community of free and prosperous nations.

And America will welcome them.


“Prejudices are what fools use for reason.”


just fyi . . .

Queen Elizabeth visits New York City: Rules to live by in case you meet ‘Your Majesty’

DAILY NEWS STAFF,  Tuesday, July 6th 2010

– Don’t bow. “We are not her royal subjects,” says etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore. “A U.S. citizen does not bow or curtsy.”

– Don’t offer a handshake, a fist-bump or a high-five. “You don’t offer your hand to royalty, you don’t reach out and touch her,” Whitmore says. “You wait for her to offer her hand.”

– Watch your mouth. Address her first as “Your Majesty,” then as “Ma’am.” “No catcalls, please,” Whitmore says. “And you wouldn’t call her ‘Liz’ or ‘Elizabeth.’ ”

– Don’t treat her husband as a commoner.  Prince Philip is lower in rank than his wife, but he still must be addressed as “Your royal highness” and “sir.”

– Steer clear of talk about her former daughters-in-law – Princess Diana and Fergie.  Chat instead about dogs and horses; the queen likes them.

– Don’t bother asking to be knighted



“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.”
 Oprah Winfrey

wishing you joy!

happy birthday, dad! wishing you many more years of good health & happiness! 

happy birthday!

we all love you! 



“When you wish someone joy, you wish them peace, love, prosperity, happiness… all the good things.”
 Maya Angelou




To read the factoids David Freedman rattles off in his book Wrong is terrifying. He begins by writing that about two-thirds of the findings published in the top medical journals are refuted within a few years. It gets worse. As much as 90% of physicians’ medical knowledge has been found to be substantially or completely wrong. In fact, there is a 1 in 12 chance that a doctor’s diagnosis will be so wrong that it causes the patient significant harm. And it’s not just medicine. Economists have found that all studies published in economics journals are likely to be wrong. Professionally prepared tax returns are more likely to contain significant errors than self-prepared returns. Half of all newspaper articles contain at least one factual error. So why, then, do we blindly follow experts? Freedman has an idea, which he elaborates on in his book Wrong: Why Experts Keep Failing Us – and How to Know When Not to Trust Them. Freedman talked to TIME about why we believe experts, how to find good advice and why we should trust him – even though he’s kind of an expert.  story


“Mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. ”
 – Thomas Jefferson